This piece represents a great factor that seems to play on the minds of people, regardless of where they come from. It is a phenomenon that has deep psychological factors, instilled into the mindset of human kind. The one prerequisite, if we are to follow Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, is that the person surpasses the biological/physiological-need stage.

It’s a phenomenon that even i, at times, struggle with; even if I consider myself to be aware of it, for it to have already registered it’s place in my conscience, and i am able to spot and identify it when it comes along. Although largely misdirected, It’s that attention-seeking, confidence-pursuing, self-esteem-hunting collection of actions that so many of us perform, day in and day out, in the hopes of fulfilling some sort of insecurity, or some missing piece of a puzzle that somehow appears as if it would complete the whole.

Now, perhaps i lack the psychological insight on this matter, but i still feel i should give my take on it, and how it has added meaning to my life. First of all, i agree to the consensus that we all have insecurities, we all have areas of improvement, and yes, the cliche does say that no one is perfect; but the way we act on it, the way we tackle it makes a huge difference, it’s like the difference between saying “I’m a human being, and this is the way i am”, and “I admit my faults, but I’ll tackle them sensibly”.

Now back on the issue, what I’m specifically writing on is this extreme effort in trying to either get people’s attention and/or acceptance, or this desire to impress. Now i can only see it as it appears to me, a strong effort to put something out, to overcompensate, for a gaping hole that lies within. And it just begs the question doesn’t it? After all the effort, will that insecurity be corrected? Will that person feel rewarded with confidence self confidence?! For all the image-building, and all the stress; i doubt many come out with positive, long-term results.

Now don’t get me wrong, i enjoy a beautiful car, premium clothing, and the latest gadgets as much as the next guy (or girl!); but there is a fundamental difference in the two, that being that my intention is to personally enjoy them, and for the others to receive attention. The quick moral here is, do it for you, not for others.

I guess what I’m ultimately getting at is, the way to get confidence, is for you to look into yourself, and be happy with yourself, with all your faults, with all your issues, with all the problems that you face, be happy with yourself, forget everyone else, people won’t make you happy about yourself, besides, you can’t ever please people, you know that and i know that. Again, tell yourself “I know i have faults, i know i have some issues to deal with, but that’s okay, I’ll love myself, and I’ll work on fixing the things that i consider a problem”. I remember being in class once, and i believe it was a humanities course, the first question the professor asked was “who is the most important person to you?”, now before i go on, take a second, and think about, who is it?… Anyhow, we got the usual, “my family”, “my mother”, “my best friend”, even “my dog” heh! Then someone said something, and it really hit the spot, she said “the most important person in the world, to me, is me!” – And that is absolutely, 100% on spot! You should be the most important thing in your life to you, I’m not saying that you should treat your loved ones and whoever else is important to you in any other way, but treat yourself the best (and don’t take this as an excuse to harm others.. do on to others as you would have done unto you!).

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Forgive me if i’m being overly assertive, i just see this day in and day out; and i wish i could just shout this all out in a single sentence, but i can’t.. So this is my medium, hope it has an effect!